They say if it comes easy, it isn’t worth having. I don’t know if I believe that generally speaking but it certainly rang true for the last couple of months.

For me, the last few months felt like hell. I have had a lot of old wounds triggered. I thought they were long since healed. But I was wrong.

I knew it was coming. The planetary alignments always tell us the story. There is a reason The Ancients used it as a navigational tool, after all. So I knew I was in for massive change. I just didn’t know what.

And it hit. I shifted out of old paradigms and stories that were keeping me stuck. It was time for them to go.

There was a lot of pain, tears and actual heartache. And in letting those go, I also had to let go of the belief systems and worldview that kept me in them. Again, inherited from generations of belief about “the right way” to do things.

Truthfully, they’d been leaving for some time but this was the final push to release them.

As I went through that I had to evaluate what I wanted my life to look like moving forward.

You’ll hear a lot more about that in the months to come but for now, I wanted to share with you some important lessons I was reminded of over the past few months…

Stepping into your power and speaking your truth isn’t for everybody. It’s hard. That’s why most women will never do it. It calls on you to dig deep. To admit truths about yourself that you never wanted to look at. And you sure as hell don’t want anyone else seeing them! That’s the payoff we get from staying in the shadows. The glossy finish we project to the world is never worn, dull or nicked. Always perfect. But you need to drop that if you want the freedom that comes from living the truest you. You’ll have to be willing to have people misunderstand you. Dislike you. Think you’re a fool. And they will; that’s a guarantee. But you won’t care. Because there is nothing like the high that comes from that rare air you breathe when you’re on that mountaintop.

At some point, you will feel compelled to walk through the doors of hell. Inexplicably, to both yourself and others. And you will do it willingly. Without a flashlight. Without a map. Without a thought for your own well-being. With only faith and trust as your companions on this journey. And you will also know that whatever lies ahead is exactly where you need to go even if you don’t know where that is yet. And most times, you won’t.

Rock bottom is a matter of perspective and you get to decide if you hit it. The Universe has decided you need a wake-up call. Again. Fortunately, you get to decide how you respond. Will you see the divine blessing in this mess? The opportunity over the obstacle? Will this be an excuse to stay stuck for another couple of years or will you get the lesson this time? Any importance placed on any situation in your life is placed there by you. Will you rise?

You know what to do; you just don’t like the answer you’re getting. If I had a dollar for every friend and client who said some version of “I don’t know what to do!”. Listen, you got that intuitive hit. That gut instinct. You just don’t like what your Higher Self is telling you needs to be done. That’s why you ask 15 different friends hoping to god you will find someone who is louder and more convincing than that still, small voice within that knows exactly what to do every single time.

That’s pretty much the highlight reel of the last few months for me.

A lot of letting go. And loss. And grief.

I never could have shifted those paradigms without releasing the old first. There was no space for my new life to come in because I hadn’t allowed it there. It’s why it had never emerged before.

Once I got through the other side of it, I felt like a new woman albeit slightly battered and bruised from the journey. I felt like I had shifted into a more evolved version of me, closer to my Higher Self. 

Many people say they are committed to “speaking their truth”. But it is another thing to do it.

It’s the hardest thing you’ll ever do AND it’s totally worth it.




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