When I was a kid in elementary school, I was bullied for a few years. I think it lasted only a year or two but the effect that had on me as a sensitive child formed how I would respond to certain things my entire life.
Fast-forward thirty-some odd years and I was about to start my first business. I would have to shine a spotlight on myself and that triggered a lot of beliefs of what would happen when I did that. The last thing I wanted to do was call attention to me!
I knew the only way out of it was to change the thoughts rolling around my head.
We can’t make lasting change in our lives without first making a decision and committing to it.
Otherwise, despite leaving the environment we don’t like, we soon find ourselves right back there again or in a similar one.
The key is to change our behaviour or belief that is causing us to be triggered in the first place.
Turns out, easier said than done. Interrupting those old stories we tell is difficult.
The good news is with effort you can always change it.
A belief is just a thought you keep thinking. A behaviour is just an action you keep taking.
Both were learned and so, both can be unlearned and replaced with a better one.
Whether it is as simple as starting a morning meditation practice, an exercise routine or preventing yourself from sabotaging new career opportunities or romantic relationships coming your way, you have to be vigilant about the stories rising up that get in your way.
Do not expect to be successful the first time out. Behavioural change takes effort and time and calling yourself a failure at the start does nothing to help you set up this new life you are after.
Seriously, you have years practicing this sabotaging belief or bad habit. It will take more than a few consistent tries and a lot of effort to rid yourself of the old one and get a new one to stick. So exercise a little self-compassion. It’s a process!
The key is to catch yourself in the midst of your story or limiting belief and stop it in its tracks.
Here are 5 practical and effective ways to do it that really work. Both my clients and I have used these with great success. Have a look:
Do not think that each of these is a “one-and-done” approach to changing your belief system!
It may take dozens of times of doing any one of these before you will see a difference.
The payoff comes when you finally start to see the difference in your behaviour. You will want to continue it because it is so effective and gets easier the more you use it.
The worst thing you could do is give up because things aren’t changing fast enough for you.
The ability to change anything in your life lies completely in your hands.
Make how you show up in this world worthy of who you want to be.
Now pull up your big girl/big boy conscious-creator pants and commit to being a happier you!